Hey, y’all! Hope your holiday season has been fantabulous! Still can’t believe today is the 28th of December. In a few days we’ll be ringing in the New Year! Remember, if you are planning on bidding 2017 farewell with a bang, do so safely.
I’d like to apologize for being a bit incognito. One of my 2018 goals are to be more active on all my social media mediums. In the meantime, here’s what I’ve been up to.
For starters, my family (extended included) has been plagued with serious issues. My mom spent almost six months in the hospital, I lost my grandmother, my husband lost a dear aunt, my moms younger sister fractured a vertebra and in the process, was diagnosed with cancer in her lumbar area. You might recall how I have my own health issues, and yes, I’m still dealing with these. Its been exhausting, but, like the saying goes, “one day at a time.” What truly has helped is having a husband and children who are patient, understanding, supportive, and extremely loving. Plus, two best friends that simply do not allow me to weather these storms on my own. Yes, I’m looking at you Tara & Jennie.
Also, my husband and I had planned on updating our floors. This project for obvious reasons kept getting pushed back. Well, November came, and it was time. Except, the project has been non-ending. *pulls hair* We had to address some plumbing, subfloor, and electrical issues. Talk about stressful. But, the end is near. Yay!
Oh, and, my in-laws finally retired! I’m extremely excited for them. They are off to a place of warmer weather, enjoying some much-needed R&R.
Before I update you on my writing, allow me to discuss vulnerabilities.
These past few months have been extremely difficult, as I attempted to trek through life and all it was throwing at me. I was in vulnerable state, easily hurt, and mentally causing myself more stress. I have this tendency to put up a wall, and deal with life on my own. I’ve always found this to be “easier” and somewhat “safer.” I’ll share snippets of what’s going on, but, its usually much more. I’m a protector, and my instinct is to protect those around me. In some twisted way, I’d convinced myself that by not being open with what I was going through, I was protecting others from, me.
I know, twisted. Right?
My two BFF’s had an intervention with me. I’ll admit, I was resistant at first. But, I allowed myself to be vulnerable. (See what I did here?) Instead of vulnerability being in the driver seat, I grabbed that sucker by the horns and said, “Listen, we’ve got to work together. So, instead of causing me more anxieties than I need, let’s work together.”
I put down my guard and opened up; patiently waited, and thank goodness not for long. They embraced me, and scolded me, and embraced and cried with me, again and again. By allowing myself to be vulnerable, I allowed two people whom I love and trust to help me, as best as they could. Let me tell you, it’s made a world of difference. It makes dealing with the issues, easier.
As a writer, and a writer with chronic health issues, I’m often isolated from the world around me. I interact with my family daily, but, it’s important to have people outside of my compound to talk to. Sure, I have quite a few friends within the writing community with whom I interact with via social media. And these are great interactions, but, it doesn’t and should never replace face to face interactions. I need this, and we all need it.
So, one of my goals of 2018 is to spend more quality time with people in my community. With friends and family.
Oh! And before I forget. About my writing? Well, you’ll just have to check back in after the New Year to read all about it!
Happy New Year! Be safe, be happy, be purposeful, and be healthy! Be kind to one another, and spread the joy!